Dp's sister is going to have her baby in the next few weeks. Dp's parents were unhappy that we were expecting, and even less so about her's (younger, only been with boyfriend a month). They came round as soon as DS was born, and were really excited, came up weekend after, she cried when she saw DS, phone calls, got broadband and webcam installed so they could see DS frequently etc. Now no phone calls - DP calls her. We wanted to go down a few weeks ago, but despite having 5 bedrooms, apparently they were busy decorating (as they were in december, when we wanted to stay, too), so no go. The web cam has been used once since xmas. They haven't seen DS since a few weeks before xmas. We asked if we could stay in April when my DB is getting married nearby. She said she would be too busy with DP's sister and baby (they might be staying there). With SIL baby due not long now, they won't be seeing DS before then.
She brought DS a teddy bear and some clothes when he was born. DP sister (I'll call her SIL for ease) does not work and is living in a council flat with her DP who does work. PIL have been round and decorated the house for her, kitted her out with loads of stuff and brought her everything she needs for baby. Now I know we're not really stuggling as she is but I do feel that this might be setting a precedent for DS. We do have to go without stuff and do everything on a budget. DS was not planned and we had no savings. I have struggled to keep hold of as much money as I can so I can afford to provide for DS and hopefully have some extra time off.
SIL is basically in this situation because she has always been spoilt (youngest child, only girl). She has not made any attempt to find any job during this pregnancy, hard maybe, but there is always temping? I know pregnancy is the last time you feel like working but at the same time knowing you have a baby to provide for must surely spurr you on?
So come on, tell me how awful I am being feeling like she is being spoilt all over again and that us and DS are being neglected. As the title says I hate feeling like this, but I feel DS is going to be second best. And he's too lovely! They should be on a level pegging? My mum thinks that mum's always feel stronger towards their daughters baby than their sons. Is that true? Why am I being an awful green eyed monster? And why does it actually matter to me? My DM is besotted with DS and is a lovely grandma. Shouldn't that be enough?
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Flossam · 15/02/2005 21:50
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