basically i need some advice re sex after a baby. we had a hard pregnancy with morning sickness and were very stressed, we lost a baby before quite late so we did not have sex during the pregnancy due to worry. we have been together for 3.5 years btw.
for around 5 months after the baby was born we did not have sex either, as dp body needs time to recover and we were frankly so exhuasted. baby is not and never has slept well. since then we have sex mabye 4-5 times.
first few times was tricky, baby woke. last time was around 2 months back and she had nice orgasm and we both felt very close afterwards. problem is, i have a high sex drive and 2 months without sex is too long. also and more recently i worry that maybe she does not find me attractive anymore, intimacy seems to have gone from us. /okay, we hold hands, we pet each other, we kiss with tongues maybe 1-2 a day but only briefly. /she says she is exhuasted which i can well believe, but even so i feel insecure and not particularly loved.
i am right to feel this way or should i just be patient and think positive? i have tried to talk about our relationship with her but she just wants light conversation and says i am being ´heavy´. i avoid talking about sex as i do not want to but pressure on her.
women pleasee help a man in love but feeling like his partner is drifting away.
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post baby sex, insecurity needs some womenly advice
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