My partner and I are separating after nine years; I am taking the children to live in a rented house about 4 miles away. Our relationship was extremely violent and controlling for a long time, and my only way of coping was to shut everything away. However, over the last couple of years I have faced up to what happened, and now find that I no longer love my partner, or can put up with being with him every day, even though he is trying really hard to make things up to me. Although things are much calmer now I feel that I have to leave to regain peace of mind and have the time to "find" myself. He has finally accepted that I am leaving, and things are now quite amicable. My worry is our children - Carly, 6 and David, 3. Carly is quite looking forward to moving as her dad scares her when he loses his temper or shouts, although she does love him to bits and will miss him loads. David, though, is being very reluctant, every time I mention the move he says "I dont want another house, I want to stay in this house". Im keeping them at the same schools/playgroup, and they will see their dad regularly. Does anyone have any advice on how best to settle them into our "new life"?
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How can I help my children cope with separation?
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Sapphire · 30/03/2001 10:15
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