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Still no apology..........

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Gravitygirl · 06/08/2008 21:37

This is going to be condensed as I cant possibly remember it all in one message but I am feeling so hurt.

On monday night my husband told me he hated me, hated coming home to me, hated doing anything with me..... this was whilst putting our kids to bed. I was knackered, fed up as kids had been whiny/ill all day and just wanted the offer of him putting them into bed, dealing with the bouts of tears etc.
He came out with the classic' go to work then, if you cant stand being with them' followed by more nasty remarks. I managed to stay calm, to which he called me a smug self righteous bitch.

Forward to now and we have not spoken apart from essential stuff, I have come into the bedroom after I have made us dinner ( yes I know) and been asleep before he comes in.
He came in briefly tonight and has gone out to the gym.
He asked why I was in the bedroom and I said , to get out of his way , suprised he was bothered if he hated me so much. Well he just started shouting again, saying he couldnt be bothered with all this shit.... and stormed out.

Oour life is stressful, we have two young children, one disabled, little money , no family network to speak of. We do have cross words sometimes , and I always back down first, he never will. But this time Im not oing to, I have had enough. I know I say horrible things to him sometimes and always apologise straight after. But there is something not right about the way he says things to me

I am at a loss... sorry needed to get this out and just 'talk'

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Dior · 06/08/2008 21:39

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Gravitygirl · 06/08/2008 21:50

Normal as in he has always said nasty things to me in the heat of the moment.... I was about to write not normal as in... but it is just normal actually. The only difference this time is I have made no effort to sort it out. God knows how long this will fester on for.

He may be depressed, yes stands a chance. Affair? who knows, maybe although he has always said he would tell me if he was not happy ( as he has done) then leave

I just dont know, and quite frankly dont have the energy to guess anymore.

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MimisMama · 06/08/2008 21:55

God how horrible - poor you .

Don't really know what to say but couldn't just read and run.

Are you getting any help with your children - I think most people recognise the strain having a disabled child puts on a relationship so I would hope you'd be able to access some support?

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Dior · 06/08/2008 22:00

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Gravitygirl · 06/08/2008 22:08

Thankyou

I think you might have hit the nail on the head, our communication with each other is abbismal. TBH it always has been. He has issues from childhood that if someone talks to him, he feels like he is being lectured and closes down and I cant stop talking....

I dont know how to solve it though, he wont entertain counselling, we cant afford it anyway. Not sure where we go from here, thats even if he wants to be here. He always says things along the lies of the fact he is only here because he wants his kids.

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