I have just started a new job which is not regular work and my dp is not happy about it and tries to make me feel like a bad mother for leaving my daughter for 12hours on the days that I work... I want to work 1 day every week and he tries to make me feel like that is too much...
I think he is jealous as I earn more money than him in a day...
Also he has recently started going out for drinks when he fancies it (not that often) but does not give any notice and decides on the day to go out.
I am still bf dd even though she is 1 so that would be his reason why I need to be at home alot or cannot go outwith giving him any notice... Even tho I know he would be really mad if I went out and did not give him notice...
I feel like he is trying to controll me and make me stay at home alot..
With the work situation he said we do not need the money so I don't really need to work..
Well he doesn't need the money but I do as we do not have a joint account. He pays bill etc but I need money in my pocket too. He said if I want 'pocket money' he will give me some. TRhen said like '£30 per week'. I am not a dam child I need my own money.
I dont really want to have a massive argument with him about these issues but clearly he is being controlling and an arse hole...
I feel the relationship is unbalenced and just because I am a woman does not mean I have no rights to a life. Its not my fault that men are made so crap that they cannot give birth to a child. So why should I have to not work and not go out because I am capable of giving birth...
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