related to my other thread, I was wondering has anyone reconciled with an ex after a break/seperation?
I know it probably sounds mad but i was wodnering if a year or so livign apart might not help me get my head on straight and figure out if things are worht saving, and for DH to either decide he's better off out of it or that he does miss me and is willing to make an effort in changing his behaviuors.
See if we seperated now I'd get a place very close by and I'd want DS to spend time at both our houses (2-3 nights with dad) and I'd quite want to do the odd thing together as parents for DS sake - like both take him to a party/trip out and be together at Xmas and Birthday for him.
It would work out financially (for complicated reasons I wont' go into here but nothing to do with skimming benefits)
So basically I'm saying,
give me some space to try and get myself back together again and get my confidence and independance back,
give both of us some rest from the endlessness of DS needs.
Give DH time to focus on his work and getting the promotion he wants without the distraction of a SN child and ill wife,
give DH time to work out if being able to play the drums at 9pm is better than having me and DS around
Give me chance to think about how much of Dh behaviuor is really awful and how much is merely irritating me cos I'm so tired and ill.
Giving it chance for the anger and tiredness to drain away and start fresh
or am I beign impossibly naive and silly?
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has anyone had a break/seperated for a while and got back together again?
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halia · 10/07/2008 21:44
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