Best OLD site?

[New2oldd]

I’m new to OLD & wondering what’s the best site price wise and also with the least fuck boys on it?

[PicaK]

I think any site where you have to pay has more people with serious intent.
However, I'd be tempted to use Tinder and match and fb dating just to see what crawls out of the woodwork.
A kind of shock therapy!!
It also eases you into the new world of dating without too much investment.
Then when you choose a pricey decent site (eharmony worked well for my ex) you'll really appreciate the guys on there for who they are.

[ComtesseDeSpair]

Most of the people on paid-for sites are also on the free ones, and unless you live in or near a major city, membership can be sparse so I wouldn’t bother paying.

I use OKCupid and Tinder. OKC gives users plenty of opportunity to create a really good, in-depth profile with detail, so you can distinguish those who’ve put a bit of effort in and are therefore probably relatively serious, from those who aren’t; and also being able to input a lot of detail effectively hands people enough rope to hang themselves, because you’ll see from what somebody chooses to write if they’re a bit of a cunt.

Tinder, paradoxically, works in a similar way for me: because it limits how many words you can include on your profile, it sort of invokes the vibe of “I’m sorry, I didn’t have time to write you something shorter” - it actually takes a lot of thought and effort to write something short yet good and effective, so a good Tinder profile can tell you (or I find it does, at least) quite a bit about its author.

[ComtesseDeSpair]

I’m always the outlier on these threads though. I must have been on over a hundred online dates over the years, and I’ve never had a bad one or met a bad guy.

[ComtesseDeSpair]

Also, it doesn’t matter what site you’re on, if you have a crap profile. I’ve browsed straight women’s profiles from time to time out of curiosity, and a lot of them are dire, if I was a nice, decent man looking for a serious relationship with an independent and interesting woman, I’d swipe left immediately. No negativity towards men, no talking about how you’ve been badly treated before and have trust issues, no “if you can’t handle me at my worst you don’t deserve me at my best” memes, no long lists of all the things you aren’t looking for.

[TossaCoinToYerWitcher]

@PicaK

I think any site where you have to pay has more people with serious intent.
However, I'd be tempted to use Tinder and match and fb dating just to see what crawls out of the woodwork.
A kind of shock therapy!!
It also eases you into the new world of dating without too much investment.
Then when you choose a pricey decent site (eharmony worked well for my ex) you'll really appreciate the guys on there for who they are.

I've just been looking at eharmony and I'm finding the questionaire both frustrating and baffling. For example:

Do you sleep with the window open?
a) Always
b) Whenever I can
c) Never
d) I don't care

Uh... how about "Sometimes"? Or "Yes, if its 28 degrees and its the only way I'll get some sleep"?

Similar story with "What holidays do you like"? A few options that amount to "relaxing wellness break" but nothing that really covers "explore a different culture".

I really don't think its going to give a good reflection of the real me. I'm already second-guessing that choosing "going outdoors" to refelct I like the occasional walk or visit to a castle/garden/interesting place, etc will be interpreted as "wants to date a cyclist". :(

[nolovelost]

Bumble by far.

[PilatesPeach]

I have tried Zoosk, Match and Greatest hits radio dating in the last year - sorry to sound miserable but all rubbish! Yes tons of interest for the first week or so but never met one man from there - they eventually fade away even when they "adored" you at the start, many want a woman quite a lot younger and alot of the men of the same age look like they have let themselves go - looks are not the be all and end all, but so many looked like Steptoe - selfies in vests, with masks on (wtf?), or no photo, or their work uniform and am not talking police or fire. I cannnot do it anymore - the time I invested too!