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Am I mental

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Helpme2021 · 12/06/2021 01:33

Hi,
I've nc for this.
I've been having a rough time with dh for around 2 years.
Tonight my dc are away from home. Dh and I have been out for food and drinks.
We had an argument on the way home about our situation.
He wasn't particularly nice about me so I ignored him and stayed downstairs.
He later came down and requested I came upstairs and said he was sorry.
Since coming to bed I fell asleep.
I was woken by his unwanted sexusl touching.
I tired for a little while to pretend it wasn't happening.
When I could no longer do this I asked him to stop.
He has since lost his shit. Up and down stairs shouting abuse at me about him having to sleep downstairs (I having asked him to do this,) and calling me mental with a split personality.
What do I do now?
I am genuinely so confused. Am I mental?

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Helpme2021 · 12/06/2021 01:35

I haven't asked himto sleep downstairs*

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HerNameIsIncontinentiaButtocks · 12/06/2021 02:01

You aren't mental.

He's a rapey shit with anger issues.

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Aquamarine1029 · 12/06/2021 02:04

You get a divorce now, that's what you do. There is nothing to save here.

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Notagain20 · 12/06/2021 04:54

The fact that you're even questioning yourself is a sign that he's undermined you and messed with your head over time. Not to mention that he thinks he's entitled to use your body without your consent. Oh, and he blames you for his own vile behaviour. He sounds revolting, OP, and you don't have to put up with him.

Do you want to stay with him? What's your situation?

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NameChangeNamaste · 12/06/2021 07:48

Not mental at all. There seem to be a lot of men out there who think they can act like a dick, issue a half hearted apology, and then expect you to sit on itHmm

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Helpme2021 · 12/06/2021 13:07

Thanks for the replies.
I know what I need to do. Just need to find the strength to do it.
Based on everything he spewed out last night, I shouldn't be any great loss to him so surely he won't be upset.
My poor kids. What a mess.

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