My ex husband is impossible to deal with and it's really starting to affect me. I'm aware lockdown is probably compounding this.
I have the children 80% of the time, and him 20% but he always seems to hold the power, exercises control over me with his actions and changes plans last minute.
He would never volunteer to take time off for home schooling, has only seen them the bare minimum throughout 2020. I'm only entitled to £125 a month from him and he buys them absolutely nothing. I feel like him financial, emotional and physical contribution to their lives is minimal. In his head, he is a wonderful father.
He was recently required to isolate for covid related reasons. Another parent at the nursery our youngest attends had expressed concern to the nursery that he was not isolating properly. He threw a strop and now refuses to go to the nursery to collect our son on a Wednesday. This means I need to leave work at 330pm 10 miles away, drive to collect my son, drop him at my husband's house one mile from nursery then travel back to work. Its things like this all the time. He will just not turn up to collect him. I wouldn't even dream of doing this to my sons.
He repeatedly uses my name in texts in such a patronising way. He talks down to me all the time and is often manipulative and rude.
I know theres probably nothing anyone can suggest and this is just the way it might be under the children are older, but my gosh for now, his is so rough. How is it possible someone I split from 3 years and have absolutely no feelings for whatsoever can make me cry with stress and anxiety after ever single exchange?
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TheresGotToBeMoreToLife · 19/01/2021 20:49
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