After having lost attraction for someone can it come back? Is it something you can work on or try to regrow?
When I first started spending time with my ex he was attractive to me. We've had four years of a break, he's changed quite a bit physically since - almost like a different person, my mum didn't recognise him. He'd had a spurt of ageing, I guess it was due. I understand it's inevitable, I know that he's still the same man who just looks different now. Mentally and emotionally, we're really drawn to each other and lift each other up as soon as the other is present. But he's noticed that I withdraw when he's kissing me, I've avoided thinking about the fact that I'm struggling to feel physically attracted. I keep avoiding photos with him because I don't like seeing them where it looks like I'm hanging out with my dad which just makes the physical stuff worse for me. I want to surpass this and get to a good place with him, yet I keep naturally withdrawing from intimacy like a knee jerk reaction and then sort of forcing myself to kiss him. I'm late twenties, he's early fifties. I do wish he was younger if I'm honest but I do love him and feel a deeper connection with him than I've had with anyone else. I can't be the only woman who's wanted to be with someone that's physically changed quite a bit, it would be nice to hear how people came out the other-side of something similar. Thanks.
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After having lost attraction for someone can it come back? Is it something you can work on or try to regrow?
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Danity1000 · 16/01/2021 21:41
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