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Sick of being used

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scaredofchange · 03/12/2020 14:33

Hey all. I'm really down & can't talk to anyone. I'm 5 years divorced. Husband moved onto a beautiful new gf, lovely home all things perfect. No money worries at all. He has our 3 children regularly it's all quite amicable but to be honest it still hurts my heart how well he has done. Me on the other hand I can attract but I can't make them stay one date in and they ghost me never to hear from them again. This most recent one is the most hurtful, he originally went back to his gf . A year later I gave him a second chance and he has just done it again. I really thought he liked me. Told me he made a mistake etc . I don't want to try anymore I can't believe people actually go out of their way to add you to their drama and hurt you. with lockdown I rarely see anyone anymore as wfh. Christmas is coming up and I have to be happy for the kids but I honestly feel like I can't take anymore rejection & pain. Please tell me it will get better

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EpochTime · 03/12/2020 15:32

How are you meeting these men?

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Notapheasantplucker · 03/12/2020 15:42

Some people are just dicks, and you've been unlucky. If I were you I'd stop dating for a minute and concentrate on yourself and your children. These men who keep ghosting are only making you feel worse. Stop comparing your ExH & his life, I know it's hard but 'comparison is the thief of joy'.
Plus, the grass isn't always greener on the other side, your ExH might not be as happy as you think.

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scaredofchange · 03/12/2020 16:18

That's the thing I don't go out of my way to date. 2 have been ex work colleagues & the others through social media. It's like they go out of their way to chase me and then once I let them in a bit ..that's it gone. I'm ok looking I'm not clingy or weird and once they go I just let them don't chase or act needy. I know it's going to happen before it ever starts I just don't know what's wrong with me

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seensome · 03/12/2020 19:14

What happens you go on a date, just drink meal go home separately then they ghost?
It can take quite a few dates sometimes to find someone you click with, sounds like you've had some bad luck.

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scaredofchange · 03/12/2020 20:15

Yeo but this has happened 4 times just this year. This last time especially hurts as the guy has done it twice to me now. Just feel really humiliated & worthless