Hello, can you offer me some advice please? I feel like im at a crossroads and not sure what to do! Husband and i have been together over 20 years. Hes always been a big drinker and since ive stopped its almost like he drinks more. We argue about this all the time and im just sick and tired of it all now. I feel like im unintentionally monitoring him with his drinking. If you asked him about his drinking he would say he drinks 3-4 days per week but reality is he pretty much drinks daily with perhaps the one day off a week. Im talking 2-4 cans of beer 440mls per day. He says he just fancies them after a day at work. Recently ive been suspicious that hes drank when ive gone out eg last night i went to the shop when he got in, probably gone around 1.5 hours. No sign of it. I thought great, second night this week no drinking but ive just put something in the recycle bin (which was emptied yesterday daytime) and there was a bag of rubbish in there with four crushed cans stuffed in. On a weekend, id say he openly drinks as hey its the weekend, everyone drinks right? So he would have approx 6-7 cans and maybe a large glass or two of wine. Feels like everytime hes at home hes got an alcoholic drink in his hand, which i hate in front of the kids. Its just not right imo.
After all that rambling, my question is- aibu about nagging him about cutting down or is that problem drinking? Just exhausting and i feel on edge with it all.
Thanks
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Sugardrop · 02/12/2020 17:57
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