I am probably just needing people to bounce off, as much as anything.
I am heavily pregnant, due next month. Because of the timing, this pregnancy has pretty much coincided with lockdown: I have worked throughout but from home (and to be honest that was somewhat ad hoc, no meaningful structure really) from April through to August, and then I started working outside of the home in September but the company changed their policy for pregnant women so I had to be ‘suspended on medical grounds’ once I was in the third trimester, which was in the third week of September.
I have moved in with my partner now (we weren’t living together before this.) I’m finding it hard to adapt in some ways. He works from home, I obviously don’t want to sound as if I am being resentful of this but being entirely honest it does make life a bit difficult, he is in the house literally 24/7, I think he left it twice in the whole of last week once to come to the supermarket with me and once to go to a medical appointment. I know that must be hard for him. I do leave the house and try to give him some space, obviously at this stage of pregnancy I am seeing the midwife and going to the hospital. Plus I have a relative in my bubble so see him once a week which gives DP some space.
But the days feel absolutely endless. I generally end up going to sleep in the afternoons, but I feel so bloody lazy and slob like. I feel like my old life - where I was up and showered and out of the house by 7, and then had a busy day at work and in the evening would go to the gym (sometimes!) is a bit of a dream, it isn’t that I long for that old life back, more that I’m worried I’m turning into somebody else.
I’m really hoping once the baby is here I will meet other mums at classes and groups but so much seems to be closed, and I am struggling with feeling so horribly isolated.
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constanthiccups · 17/11/2020 11:14
OP. I didn't want to read and run. I know what you mean about becoming a "different person". It's the uncertainty about when life will return to normal, the vaccine has been developed, but how long before we are all immunised and can move on?
I remember when I was expecting, I had given up work, and the midwife put h/w on the antenatal form, she couldn't be bothered to write " housewife" in full, so I felt like I had lost my identity. Please don't worry about having a nap during the day though, as I'm sure that's what you are supposed to do. Work often makes us mechanical beings, as we are so used to having to travel to and from work during strict time scales. Try and use this time for a much needed break from the grind and routine, especially as it's a situation which is out of our hands. Are you going back to work? If so, the circumstances being temporary might be a relief. There will be other mums in your immediate area in similar circumstances, I hope you will have the opportunity to meet them soon. Wishing you a safe birth, best wishes for your future, 
I didn't say order him 
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Him going out occasionally would also give you space. That was part of what you're complaining about, wasn't it?
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