I’m 49, divorced and in new relationship (8 months) Progressing nicely and he’s lovely but I suffer from extreme relationship anxiety which is actually getting worse longer I’m seeing him. Terrified of it not working out, suffer from low self esteem and a big part of me feels it would be easier just to end things now to prevent myself getting hurt. Part of the issue is we live over an hour or so apart so weekends need to be planned and spontaneous get togethers not possible. When we are together we have a great time but he finds it impossible to sleep in the same bed as me (he claims he gets restless legs) so we end up sleeping apart and I miss the closeness and can’t sleep for worrying. By the time we’ve spent two nights together I’m utterly exhausted and spent and feel really down between visits. We have talked about living together but in a “couple of years” and I honestly don’t know how I’ll get through the interim period. We both have demanding jobs and older kids at home so lots to work around. I can’t help feeling that I should be feeling less anxious by now but the worry is all consuming and I’m miserable for much of the time I’m not with him. I know this isn’t an attractive quality but I can’t seem to shake it off.
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