Hi, I am just after some advice please. I have no kids but my partner has 3. They are all over 18, between 18 - 25, one lives with their mum and the other 2 have moved out living alone. My partner and I live together and have done for over a year now but In his house. I’m just wondering what you would consider a reasonable amount of days a week he sees his kids. Some weeks it’s every single day and as much as I like them, I’m feeling a bit suffocated, there are a lot of last minute visits where they come round so I can’t relax or make plans and there have been many times where our plans have been put to one side because of unplanned visits. He feels like he can’t say no to them but when he’s seen them 6 out of 7 days a week and we haven’t had any time together I don’t think it’s unreasonable to say we are spending a day / night together. I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable seeing as I don’t have kids of my own but if he had young kids and split custody we would only have them 50%. It just means that after about the 5th day on the run I start to resent that there’s no “us” time or “me” time, I work 5 days a week so would like to sometimes just chill some nights. Whereas if it was more balanced out I would enjoy the time we see them more, if that makes sense. Would love to hear some opinions. Thank you x
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