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Am I wrong to think this?(4 Posts)
Firstly, I know that this is not any of my business but I find myself biting my tongue a lot so want to get others insights. My DSis (mid 30s no DC) dated a guy for a few months (6 months max) towards the end of last year. He broke it off because they wanted different things (she is keen to settle down and I think was trying to move things along too quickly).
He then decided he wanted them to stay friends so for all of this year, DSis has been 'friends' with him, head in a mess because she still wants to get back together, moaning about him, saying she doesn't want to spend time with him, but when I told her to go nc, it didn't happen. Now they've started dating again. DSis is all positive and saying that she knew if she stuck it out, 'love' would win through in the end and that they are supposed to be together.
Personally, I think if it hadn't been for Covid, he'd have moved on to someone else. I'm also pretty skeptical that there is a 'one' and think that romance shouldn't have to be so difficult, and I just think that the whole relationship seems messed up. Am I being a hard-hearted, judgemental cow and should I be happy for DSis?
BTW, I'm happily single, not someone in a happy relationship who doesn't know how hard dating is these days.
Sounds like you might be right but unfortunately you have to go with it. She might know herself deep down.
he's using her until someone better comes along... you are correct OP 🌺
Playing devils advocate, he might just have kept her at arms length to cool her down a bit as he didn’t feel ready for a full in relationship. Perhaps he does now. A lot has changed and we’ve all had more time to think about what’s important in life. Although your thoughts on the matter may be more likely.
If she’s not the brightest, I hope she doesn’t do the falling pregnant accidentally on purpose thing to ‘keep’ him.
If you criticise her choice she might believe you and go down that route in order to keep him. (Like that works 100%)
So prob best to stay out of it and be ready to wipe the tears later if things don’t work out. I hope it works out for her though. He might have grown up a bit after all.
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