I have been following the previous threads on here regarding the 'ick' with interest.
Background - together 10+ years one dc. We had dc unplanned early in the relationship and looking back I'm not sure that dh ever felt completely right for me but he has lots of good qualities and I did love him. A strong family unit means a lot to me and over the years I've wholeheartedly put lots of energy into making things work (often to my own detriment).
Main issue is dh is a drinker/occasional drug user and has somewhat of a history of letting me down albeit this has improved massively year on year.
Im now at the point however that I feel a strong aversion to any physical contact with him - I believe I possibly have the dreaded ick. When he's had a drink it's particularly prevalent-I can't stand the way he speaks, acts, heavy breathes when drunk and I physically want to recoil at his touch. I've asked and asked for him to reduce the drinking, which he has to an extent but he is someone who becomes affected by alcohol quickly eg after a couple of pints.
He's objectively a handsome man but I truly just don't fancy him any more and dread sex with him. Is there any way past this? I would feel dreadfully guilty about splitting a family just because I don't fancy him . We are mid 30s. Help!
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Dh, icky things and uncertain future
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Reflection2 · 27/10/2020 19:24
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