I just need to get this out. Somewhere.
My dh keeps doing really stupid things.
I feel like I can't live like this but don't know what to do.
He is the most arrogant person I know.
Over the last year there has been a massive spate of incidents where I've said please don't do that otherwise something bad will happen. What then happens is my dh gives me a look of superiority like I'd have no clue if something was about to happen and ignores me. When I say anything about don't do this it's literally only for the most predictable things.
He's text me this morning saying he's backed our car into a street lamp.
I was in the car with him yesterday in the same place. I said to him don't reverse so quickly because you nearly hit this same pole. He gave me his superior look scoffed then parked. I text back saying please send me a picture as I know someone near there who can fix it, that was two hours ago. I've since received a text saying not to worry it's only a scuff. So I said if it's only a scuff send me a picture. No picture. He's lying.
This is the second incident this month with the car alone that I've said please be careful otherwise this will happen. We have only just finished paying £400 of damage where he did something that I said was so predictable if he carried on driving the way he was. He didn't even get it fixed properly, just got half a job done to reduce the cost of repairs so the new car we had since September that he bashed at the beginning of this month is no doubt looking even worse today. All of my money goes on these repairs. I have no money left at the end of each month and watch savings deplete because of him being so superior that when I say please don't act so silly something will happen, I get superior look and then some kind of inevitable accident follows and we have to pay out every single month for something.
I'm so tired and so done. I don't know what to do. I can't afford to live on my rubbish salary. I have been looking for a job that I can live of if for months but not even getting a reply for any applications.I can't see how I can leave. I have locked our doors from the inside and just not going to let him back into our house when he gets back. I'm so done I don't know what to do. The superior looks. He ignores and blanks me all the time if he doesn't agree with what I'm saying. I am so sick of it.
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Just need to get this out of my system
woodentable · 27/10/2020 12:59
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