Hi
I went on a first date on Friday with a guy I’d been talking to for around a month..met online. He seemed really nice Convo flowed straight away. Was maybe a slight red flag hes not even been broken up from his daughters mum for a year yet (January) and the child isn’t even two yet.. second red flag he only mentioned he had a child 3 days before the date. I let that slide as we got on well.
I thought the date went really well.. he was giving a lot of compliments saying he was attracted to me spoke a lot about both our lives he said he wanted more children and within the next few years ( I have no children and ideally with the right person would want this too) he made it seem he was looking for a Rship.. spoke about second date we sat in the car at 10 (curfew) for two hours talking loads and he was saying how glad he was he came etc. I live alone him with family.. it was pretty obvious he wanted to come back here and I was no way going to allow that.. we kissed once which was ok but then he kept going in for more kisses and I felt it was becoming a bit heated and I wasn’t comfortable. Tried to touch my leg etc.
Date ended and we both went our separate ways.. text me when he got in saying how he had a really nice time and would speak to me tommorow (Saturday ) anyways I didn’t hear from him and thought it was a bit strange. He then messaged me this evening and said we are on different paths and how he can tell I really wants kids and that’s not for him right now etc etc and how I’m a nice woman but he feels it would be pressured etc and not laid back ? I honestly am in shock ! It was him saying all the stuff about kids etc on the night and talking about a second date
I’m thinking he just wanted sex now!
Sorry for long post
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First date now there won’t be a second
Bex19999 · 26/10/2020 22:55
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