Hi. Not really sure how to start this but I don't know what to do. My relationship is abusive and not normal but he won't leave even though he says he will over and over as I make his skin crawl etc. He's always been a big drinker and usually only says shit like that (and worse) when he's pissed or hungover. Never any apologies but silent treatment like it's my punishment. When things are good they are really lovely and I'm happy. There are kids involved, youngest is 13. I feel like I'm such a mess at the moment, not working which is more fuel for his fire, and absolutely no confidence or self esteem. I do love him and care for him but I don't know what's normal anymore and it's doing my head in to be living with this constant cycle of ups and downs. One minute he's saying I love you and the next it's some horrible put down insult. He has a bit of a habit of smashing stuff up and then disappearing for 2/3 nights with absolutely no word about where he is or anything. Again for the few days after cos I'm fuming he totally blanks me. When I get upset he tells me that I'm being over sensitive etc etc. Is this normal cos I really don't know anymore. He can also be the kindest person I know so it's such a mess of what's right and wrong. Am i just overreacting and could this be my fault? I can be hot headed out of sheer frustration at the drinking and smoking etc. Thanks
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