My DD (12) is increasingly reluctant to go and stay with her Dad. He’s an alcoholic - functioning, living with new partner, lying about it and hiding it from everyone. Except my DD knows. On Saturday night he was drinking gin and tonic and told her it was sparkling water. She pretended to choke but he wouldn’t give her his water. He turns the tap on to hide the sound of a can opening. I know how serious his drinking is. I know how much he lies about it. I’ve told my daughter that it’s not her responsibility, that she can call me and leave him if she’s unhappy and he’s drunk. I’m trying to ensure that she doesn’t have the pressure of trying to change him. I’ve spent years trying to fix him and obviously gave up. But do I do it for her or just support her and try an ensure she is not emotionally entangled in his drinking? Thank you!
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Do I warn my ex-DH his drinking is upsetting our DD in visits?
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siucra · 05/10/2020 04:03
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