Last month I started talking to a guy on a dating app. (Both in our twenties) Things seemed to be going well so within a week he asked me if I wanted to meet . We had both spoken about how we were looking more for a relationship which was good as were both on the same page. I don’t normally meet someone this early and I haven’t done lots of dating so I was trying to be more brave and put myself out there and I thought he seemed nice so agreed. The date went well despite me being late 🙈 and we got on well and he seemed sweet.
We spoke over text later in that day and he thanked me for coming and said he had a nice time and felt a connection and I said enjoyed it too. He then text me the next morning asking how my day was and we just had general chit chat.
The next day I regretfully pushed more for how he felt on the date and he responded with similar things of how he enjoyed it etc. ( I wish I didn’t and I feel that may have been my own insecurities coming in) he then said after awhile that maybe I was being full on for only one meet ( which I agree looking back) so I then mentioned I had another date, which was true as to not look too keen to him.
But I was shocked by his reaction as he stared to become really annoyed with me and that I had another date and he told me I should have told him I was talking to other people and I was making him an option and it made him feel not good enough which he didn’t like. He said he had been cheated on in his last relationship and that he would prefer just us talking exclusively. I felt it had been an overreaction and tried to explain myself and my thought process of why I said it and also that I felt it was maybe him being over the top.
In the end he stopped replying to my messages. I was disappointed as we had got along and he seemed nice. During the no talking period I did notice he would sometimes watch my Instagram stories which made me think he was still taking an interest.
We didn’t talk again until yesterday, where we started off with some casual how you been type conversation. (Over text) Then it got a little flirty, he then asked what I was doing Friday evening and I asked him what he had in mind and he asked if I wanted to come over. I didn’t confirm or deny as I was unsure, I replied saying I didn’t think he would be like that and he said he isn’t he just thought it’s what I might have wanted. I then said we must have crossed wires ( I had wondered if he thought I wanted sex) which I can understand due to a couple things I had asked at the time sexual questions. We both admitted we still were attracted to each other and he had felt that way since meeting. I then asked why he ignored me then and he said he needed to take a step back. I said maybe I could have handled things differently and that we both could have done. He read the message but didn’t reply and the next morning I was blocked. I’m really confused and I wonder if it was his insecurities or whether it was a game?
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Is he insecure or game playing?
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cookieba · 25/09/2020 11:25
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