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Obsessed ex

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iloverock · 16/09/2020 21:41

I split from ex 3 years ago.
There are ongoing court proceedings that will be resolved in the next 2 months.
He has harassed me, made my life hell including buying the house next door to me.
I have an injunction in place so he can't speak to me directly. The police are also involved but i suspect they won't do much.

Every time I go out in my local area somebody will tell me he has been talking about me. He can't seem to talk about anything else.
He is obsessed.

Why can he not move on?
I don't talk about him except to my very close friends.

How do I deal with this?

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NancyBotwinBloom · 16/09/2020 21:53

God can you get some sort of injunction?

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Appleofmyeye05 · 16/09/2020 22:00

Consider moving house.

Do you have children together?

Absolute madness, ex’s like this are bloody scary - it’s the type of thing you see on the news which has a grisly ending! I don’t mean to scare you and apologies if I have but I would be seriously considering moving and even being clever about the moving day, i.e moving whilst he is at work so he can’t follow you to your new house!

Hope you manage to sort it, OP. It’s given me the shivers!

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iloverock · 17/09/2020 08:13

I already have an injunction but you can't stop people slagging you off and talking to others.

I found out last night that he has been talking about me again to a mutual acquaintance and telling them all about the court case and how much he has spent.

I have children but not his thank god.

I really don't understand how you can't move on

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Sunnydaysstillhere · 17/09/2020 08:21

You need a big ddog. 6 foot fence. Make it clear he is locked out of your life. And cctv.

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