(hope this is the right forum for this - and sorry in advance for the essay). My best friend and I have been friends since we were 11 (we are now 23). Our personalities are quite different - she's very extroverted, puts herself out there and can sometimes be quite erratic. I'm much more introverted and like a quiet life. But we get on really well and we've always been so supportive of each other.
She's had a hard time with various things recently and is also now out of a job. I've done my best to listen to her and be there for her. She's got a friend who seems to be a fairly bad influence and everytime they go out they're always doing lines of cocaine and doing all nighters. Not particularly something I'd be into but whatever, I sit there listening to all her stories. She goes on about it an awful lot.
As for me, I'm currently going through a 5 year break up and things have been really hard. She's been coming round to listen to me, I've cried to her and she's helped me clean my flat when things have been too much. She's been really good.
On Saturday I had some of my uni friends over for a party/some drinks out. I invited her too as she knows them all. We were really excited for it. On the night out she sits there moody, glued to her phone. She tells me she's really bored and everyone is boring, and that I'm ignoring her by talking to my other friends. She then goes off, does coke on her own in the toilets and comes back, then makes subtle hints about coke where she can (she thought my friends necklace was a coke spoon/she was asking everyone for a fiver/making me promise to try some - which I didn't - etc).
We decide to go back to my flat for more drinks. Annoyingly, I forgot my keys!!!! Everyone moaned a bit at first but my friends said it'd be okay, I can get a spare key in the morning. We all ended up having a laugh about it and my friend lives down the road so she said we could all stay there. Apart from my friend - she stood there, arms crossed, face like a slapped arse, saying how unfair this was on her and it was irritating for her. My friends said yes it's irritating for everyone but it's not about anyone, it's just one of those things.
Anyway, she storms off dramatically, gets in her car and drink drives home!!!!!
The next day she comes to get her things, completely ignores me and storms out.
She then sends a barrage of texts saying how HER night was ruined and she'd rather die than spend a night with my boring friends. I said about the coke and said I know things are hard but if you're resorting to that during some casual drinks then I'm here for her if she needs me. She went on to call me a patronising c, I can go f myself, I should look in the mirror to see who has issues and that I've made these whole few weeks all about me (been talking about the break up). She then blocks me on all social media. She's very very stubborn so I won't hear from her now.
Now I'm really really bloody hurt because she has been my best friend for 13 years and she's the only close friend I have. Also on top of my break-up this has hit me like a ton of bricks and it's all too much. But I don't know whether to reach out because I feel like she's been really out of line. What does everyone think I should do next?
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flowerpot628 · 16/09/2020 11:46
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