Hi ,
So I don't really know where to start but here goes 😢
So I broke up with my x over a year ago . Due to emotional abuse and other factors, we have a beautiful baby boy who is 1.5 years old ...
Contact between him and our son is so complicated, I can't tell you how many times my x hasn't turned up to see him and the other half of the time he's always been extremely late.
After nearly a year he finally agreed to set days because I told him he needs routine and threatened him with court . Eventually we agreed to Tuesday and Thursday (but he still won't give me a time ) so he rings me and hour before. At least that is something !
I don't trust him at all , i told him that our son had a very sore bum and not to keep giving him junk food , and he came back with crisps and chucked his water to give him juice instead ! He has had diarrhoea all evening now and unfortunately was in a lot of pain!
He can never take no for an answer and it's always his way and no one else's way no matter how nicely you put it.
Today he also bought MacDonald for him too knowing full well he was having dinner in 40 minutes .. just to show me he's in charge and does what ever he wants ..! I don't mind him taking him for dinner but he does these things on purpose , my son didn't touch his dinner at all
When returning he got really aggressive in his voice and said he's coming on Sunday ,
(He wanted more days so I gave him every other Sunday ) even though he always comes late or doesn't turn up.
I told him this was my weekend and it was his problem he choose not to come last week at all ( one I'm not sure why ) (and the Sunday because he said he was hungover and couldn't come ) so my plans had to get cancelled last minute again . He then said he wanted to come another day( not his day) but saw a photo of our son and I together lying on the sofa .." and all we did was stay in our pyjamas all day" We were both full of a cold .. and I deserve a pyjama day as I have him 24/7 and don't have to explain anything to him ( just another rude comment unfortunately !!
I don't trust him at all , he's very sneaky !
He did cocaine when we were together , gambled a lot too and has a sleep problem ..where he doesn't wake up .. he hasn't had him overnight yet but I'm worried he will take him one night ... what if our son wakes up and his dad is fast asleep from alcohol ..
I'm getting legal advice tomorrow but has anyone been through this ? I want to go to court and get set days as I can't take getting anxiety and talking to him on the phone and him trying to worm his way in
Sorry if it's to long !! I tried to cut it down as much as possible 😢
Vanessa xx
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nessaghb · 04/09/2020 08:46
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