Hi all I hope your all doing ok 😊 I have name changed for this one. I have been with my fiancé coming up 10 years . I have one teenage son 16 from a previous relationship. My fiancé has no children . Up until two years ago he wasn't really fussed about having any children where as that that time I was . That's all I thought about . The tables have turned . I don't want any now at all and that's all he wants . He has said it a few times but he doesn't really say what he's feeling but I know that it is all he wants . We are early 30s have demanding jobs which are long hours but can be very flexible and he says he won't work no where near as much as he is if we do have one . I know this is awful but I have been taking my pill with out him knowing for the last few months because getting pregnant really scares me . I had such a hard time with my son . I was in hospital for a month nearly lost him . Had an awful birth , labour lasted 5 days and I had postnatal depression for a good two years after and I still don't think I'm back to normal now . I suffer with really bad anxiety . I feel so torn . Everyone deserves a chance at being a parent. I have been pregnant two years ago and I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks on Father's Day of all days and I think that killed him although he hasn't talked about it . I v have so many worries. I worry about having a baby and him leaving , him after all these years of just only having to worry about himself will find it really hard being a father , what if he thinks once a baby is here he has made a big mistake ? Also I'm so used to it just being me and him that what if I won't take well to having a baby ? Then I worry about him being an awful father and me being an awful mother. I think as I have got older and my son has practically grown up I love my life right now. With work our sex life has been not as good as usual so I'd say once every two weeks when I was on the pill . I have stopped taking it this last week and I feel it's as if he can sense something because he hasn't wanted it every single night ! And now I'm sat here having a breakdown thinking what if I'm pregnant and all these thoughts going on in my head . We are stable financially, own our own house got stable jobs so if it did happen then we are in a position but it's just me who isn't . I look at him sometimes and I actually feel sorry for him that he has ended up with someone like me . I feel like he deserves better because he's been asking me to go to the doctors lately thinking there might be something wrong as to why I'm not getting pregnant! Has someone been though this or is ?
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