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mindblogglingstuff Sun 23-Aug-20 00:24:56

In the beginning of meeting and getting to know someone I considered to be worth getting to know. Older man
I feel the struggle to be me and not care about being psychology analysed is draining.
For example I'll make a comment and he wants to know who and when.
Thrown in the fact he said I should consider myself " lucky" he is into me, since this comment I feel like although I am worthy my friend suggests letting him know so am I.
When I am text I feel like blocking or saying your to much or am I so untangled in my protective shell or I have to suck it up.
My life's full otherwise, I have male friends I feel this older mans views of me being crazy, over sensitive, He's very stuck on his ways I see already
maybe to much for a 10 year age gap and I'll be best to Run?
He has no idea beyond the scenes I have a chronic health problem which causes my less than hyper moods, tiredness, anxiety
24/7 unlike himself.
I am ready but within respectful boundaries to be with someone.
I need advice be gentle!

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SoulofanAggron Sun 23-Aug-20 00:32:25

Thrown in the fact he said I should consider myself " lucky" he is into me

This is an obnoxious, narcissistic comment. It implies he thinks he's somehow better than you. You could bin him for this comment alone, as it's a red flag.

I feel this older mans views of me being crazy, over sensitive

I don't think a 10 year age gap would cause this. What's causing this is him being potentially/already emotionally abusive. He disregards and mocks your feelings, perceptions of what's going on, etc.

He's making you unhappy.

He has to go.

Anordinarymum Sun 23-Aug-20 00:36:17

OP I think posting on here is enough of a flag for you. You know his behaviour is negative. It will only get worse. Give this one a miss. there are so many decent people in this world and you will meet one who does not tell you how lucky you are to have him. Oh Lord what a pratt

Giraffey1 Sun 23-Aug-20 00:39:06

He told you that you should consider yourself lucky that he is into you!?
I’d be telling him you aren’t into men with unwarranted massive egos and bin him off.

TheoriginalLEM Sun 23-Aug-20 00:41:51

Run OP, he will use your anxiety against you. He is already trying to erode your self esteem. 'Lucky he's into you - yuck

ulanbatorismynextstop Sun 23-Aug-20 00:45:11

Dump him, you should be happy and excited, not feeling like you're being gas lighted already.

Antibles Sun 23-Aug-20 01:11:07

Lots of red flags already. He is not a nice man at all. If you feel psychologically drained already I strongly suspect you have met a narcissist. Get rid of him. If you find it difficult to get rid of him and can't shake him off, you have definitely got a narcissist on your hands, they hate to lose a potential victim and tend to cling on. Cut off all contact, don't respond to the contact attempts. Good luck, you deserve better.

mindblogglingstuff Sun 30-Aug-20 09:01:09

Thanks everyone for your replies and advice.
I had the chat about my concerns with him
Firstly he apologied the next time he denied it all. (Odd in itself I think)
Claiming to be shocked he would treat me anything but great.
He mentions me confronting him every time I see him like I am to be ashamed.
The continual need to undermine my thoughts and feelings is something I have never experienced.
I find that in itself has me walking away fast.

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Giraffey1 Sun 30-Aug-20 16:11:47

Good, OP, I am glad you have binned him. You HAVE binned him, haven’t you?

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