Hi all,
I'm trying to work out how I can deal with my mum, who is constantly negative. I've tried a lot of things, and nothing seems to work. My name is solely because of the band, I'm female if it matters!
Every time I say anything, she will have to make a negative comment. I was scared, when I was growing up, to try anything different, because I knew something negative would be said. I spent my teen years lying because I knew she would try to denigrate me in some way. Even something so small as tying my hair in a high pony instead of a low, would invite criticism.
I suppose I'm asking, is this normal? Is it just the done thing? To have to state a negative opinion about everything? Every thing I mention to my mum is met with something negative, and it's exhausting. I don't tell her anything of actual importance, but literally everything has to have a downer put on it.
How do you deal with someone who has to say something negative all the time? I don't want to confront her or anything, my self-esteem is shot. I just don't want to let it get worse.
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BrendonUrie · 22/08/2020 21:16
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