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What would you do here?

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Louise000000 · 21/08/2020 08:26

Seeing a guy at the start of the year. We finished on good terms and had a few months no contact then got back in touch and started fwb every time he's home from work which is one weekend per month.
So we had a plan to see each other again next weekend, since then another man has asked me out for dinner tonight which I'm really looking forward to as he seems lovely.
So how do i play this with fwb guy?
Wait and see how it goes with date guy? See fwb next weekend and say I've started dating someone new (all going well that is it)
Wait until date guy and myself are more regularly dating before ending fwb?
Not wanting to act unfair to either guy here!!

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PegasusReturns · 21/08/2020 08:34

You don’t need to tell either about the other at the moment.

Assuming you are practicing daft sex it is literally none of FWB business if you are involved with someone else. You have set the parameters of your engagement and it is as friends.

With the new guy wait and see how things pan out, don’t mislead him but you don’t have to spill on first date.

And apologies if I’m way off by would I be right in thinking the FWB situation was engineered by him not you and you’d like another shot at a relationship oven then opportunity?

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overacupcoffee · 21/08/2020 08:55

Wow enjoy yourself is all I say!

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Hardlyworking · 21/08/2020 09:00

Daft sex 😂

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Louise000000 · 21/08/2020 09:13

I do love daft sex 😂

No I'm actually happy with fwb with first guy as we are def not right together. Too different and there were many issues that cropped up. However I do fancy him and we had a nice time in bed so I just asked him over one night and it kind of started like that.
The date guy persued me after seeing my pic on fb, (we have mutual friends) and he's asked for this date tonight. We have chatted all week and he seems nice.

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Buggedandconfused · 21/08/2020 09:29

You don’t need to worry at the moment. Keep FWB and date the new guy. Once you get physical with the new guy then you need to make a decision.

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Sakurami · 21/08/2020 09:35

You're perfectly free to date other people. I presume if something comes of the date then you either have to end things with fwb or be honest with each of them.

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Louise000000 · 21/08/2020 09:37

Right I'll see how tonight goes anyway! Looking forward to it. Not been on a date since last year 😊

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Iloveme30 · 21/08/2020 09:50

Ooh date night ! I'm five years married and wouldn't change it but I did love a first date night ! How exciting 💋 enjoy 😉

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SoulofanAggron · 21/08/2020 10:26

The date guy persued me after seeing my pic on fb, (we have mutual friends)

I always see it as a bad sign when a bloke pops up on messenger etc. I find it a bit sleazy/creepy. But maybe it's just me.

Keep an eye out for red flags (as you would with anyone) but have a good time. Please let us know how it goes. xxx

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Louise000000 · 21/08/2020 13:49

No no wasn't like that, so he put the feelers out to our mutual friends who then came to me and I had a quick swatch at his photo and said to give him my number 😂😂 I'm not actually on fb

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combatbarbie · 21/08/2020 14:26

Don't tell either of them until the date guy looks as if it may be turning into a relationship. Have fun and enjoy..... Its like waiting for a bus

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Louise000000 · 21/08/2020 15:22

Definitely is like waiting on a bus! But coming out of an unhappy marriage last year I'm enjoying every min Grin

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ChristmasFluff · 21/08/2020 19:51

Well for all you know, date gut could be horrendous.

no need to do anything for a very long time yet, OP. Enjoy the buses :-D

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ChristmasFluff · 21/08/2020 19:52

date guy. Think we've all had date gut tho :-)

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