bit of a strange one here about friendships... so pls bear with me,
im engaged and my other half is the life and soul of any party. He has a lovely family and friends circle and I've been welcomed into it. BUT I feel so insecure. Over the years by circle has slowly diminished and atm I hardly feel like I have any friends.
He says he feels like I am reluctant to socialise with the group and tbh I am. even though its exactly what I want - to be part of a group - I don't want to feel like an outsider and to be included out of pity, they've all known each other for years and I feel like the new kid on the block..
whenever I hear ppl talk about hen parties I cringe because who would attend mine.. my shadow?! I dont feel I can match up and I worry that I will be judged for it. My OH assures me that no one thinks of me this way but why dont I have many of my own friends? Im 32 and during lockdown I have really tried to make an effort talking to ppl, and getting in contact with ppl I lost touch with or even to make new friends when I do my daily walks or take my dog out.
Ydy was a prime example - I came across someone ydy who I started to have chit chat with.. until another woman came along and they completely started to ignore me. I just want meaningful connections but I dont know why I hold myself back when Im given the opportunity... I want to have friends on my own accord but is it too late for me to make any new ones? has anyone else felt lonely due to lack of friendships or felt excluded when they try to make new ones?
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crossroads1 · 13/08/2020 09:25
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