My husband is just emotionless. Since we married, we have probably lived apart more than together. He took 9m to move in with me, takes jobs away from home and we even split for 18m. Absolutely not having an affair, he just is selfish and unless his needs are met 100% and his life his hassle free, he bails. Im 33w pregnant and he still sometimes stays around his friends for really pathetic reasons like his friend had a hair transplant and they got too hot at work (yesterday) but his friend had no fan so H wanted to get one of my 2 fans and go back to his for the night! I didn't say no but the look on my face caused him to change his mind but he still went to drop the friend home, wash his hair there (we have no shower) and have his dinner there. When he's angry he tells me outright he hates it at home because of me etc etc but it's not me. He just is a child with childish friends - all his friends are divorced or the type who don't drive so he has to ferry them around etc. Separation isn't an option, I tried it. He's not all bad, definitely being separated has exacerbated it because he acts the same. He won't talk much, he just gets angry. If i say I'm lonely, he says I'm mental. He is from a country where typically women aren't loved etc, the concept is bizarre to him genuinely. Women very much put up and shut up. He's not extreme by those standards, i know this sounds bonkers but he lets me drive etc when we visit his country so he is on the lesser end of the scale.
Anyway, does anyone live in a basically lonely and loveless marriage and make it work and be happy? He isn't a friend or confidante and he never will be ... its been 6.5 years. He'll happily go all day without speaking to me, even longer. Anyone facing the same ?
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StealthLemonade · 12/08/2020 18:29
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