I am a bit drunk now so I apologise for my spelling and grammar. I’m not a troll, I’ve been on MN for 5 years or so but have name changed several times to avoid being outed on various topics.
A recent post on here made me reevaluate several incidents in my childhood which have plagued me for long time.
I was molested repeatedly by an extended family member who my parents ended up adopting.
She came from a very abusive background.. her mother was a raging alcoholic and was a cousin of my mother.
My parents saw what a state she was in and because she was the same age as my brother they decided to take her into our home.
She shared a bedroom with me. I was 4 at the time she came to live with us and she was 7 nearly 9.
She abused me. Physically, mentally and emotionally,
I am not sure how to cope with this. She left our family at 16 to go back to her mother and sisters even though she was adopted by my parents.
Since then (20 years ago) I’ve had very little to do with her.
We’ve recently had a death in the family which has caused her to get back in touch, everyone is accepting her with open arms but I can’t now stop remembering what she did to me.
I can’t cope. Every time I hear her name I want to be sick but I feel I can’t say anything now because it’s been so long and I don’t know anyone will believe me.
The things she did to me were vile. But she was only a little girl herself (8-12 yrs)
The rational adult in me knows she was just a kid who had clearly been abused herself.
But I cannot let this feeling go or stop the horrible feeling I have when I hear her name
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SpongebobNoPants · 01/08/2020 03:38
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