Posting this more as a call of support to other women in my shoes rather than for replies but anything positive or constructive welcomed!
I'm 31 and became single 3 weeks ago after the end of a long-term LDR. We were meant to move in together this year but being hundreds of miles apart during lockdown was our undoing. I say it's lockdown - I also think deep down he got cold feet about relocating.
I feel so isolated from my friends for the first time ever. They're all coupled up in serious relationships or married, and I am so aware that I'm not even close anymore. I'm back in the dating pool again when I hoped I'd never have to be. They all have other priorities and I understand that.
It's different when you become single in your 20s because there's inevitably others in your circle that are too. I feel like life is so unfair and I shouldn't be having to do the dating app thing again and I don't want to be the one with the funny horror dating stories. I don't want to be on a conveyor belt of spending week nights in different bars with guys I find out I don't click with. I want to be in the "club" of happy settled people.
If you're reading this and thinking I'm Needy and can't be alone you're wrong. When you're in a LDR you get used to being apart from a partner but to have that whole relationship and everything I was building towards ripped away has left me feeling bereft.
I find it so strange to think he has no qualms about jumping back into the pool (his dating profile is already back up) and yet it fills me with dread.
I can't bear the thought of starting again and yet my ticking clock tells me I don't have the luxury of waiting.
If anyone has felt the same, post here and let me know what I'm feeling isn't unique!
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31, newly single, gutted
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DundeeDiva · 26/07/2020 21:09
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