Long story short, I've decided enoughs enough with my relationship and I desperately need to leave. I have had enough of his bullying, insults and abuse.
I have 2 children (1 of them is from a previous relationship and my youngest is my partners)
I think tonight after another row I've finally seen the light, I've put up with so much for so long and I've tried my best but I don't deserve this.
Our house is private rented and I've decided it's best for me to be the one to leave (he's very difficult, has said on more than one occasion he won't leave and it's got to be me and the kids to go). We are in a fixed let agreement for another 6 months, I have found out he would have to agree to the house being signed over to just his name which I don't think he will do and I also want to keep it quiet that I'm leaving or all hell will break loose and I don't think I would have any belongings left in the house if he knew and he would do something.
I think I'm going to have to speak to the local council housing to try to get somewhere and just bide my time. I've realised I've got to remain silent and not tell him my plans.
The main issue I have is that I work and I've always worked, but my shifts now wouldn't be possible if I was a single mum. My family all work so no one could have my son and nursery wouldn't fit the hours of my shifts at the minute (dad picks up after work while I'm still working) so I would have no choice but to give up work. I've just worked out on the universal credit calculator what I would get (which is less if I don't work than if I do)
But would I be entitled to universal credit if I gave my job up voluntarily? I would be looking for another job with more suitable hours in the mean time, I don't want to be unemployed as i never have before.
I'm so scared how this is going to turn out. I also want to move where he doesn't know where I will be. My son will see him but I wouldn't want him to pick him up from my house. He is very much the type that would do something to my house or my car etc, no matter how it would affect his child.
Nothing that's gone on between us has ever been reported to the police, although with a lot of things I could've done. So I have no police record of anything he has done. I don't know how to go about this is anyone has any advice please
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startinganew · 25/07/2020 23:37
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