My partner of 15 yrs and father to our two children is in the process of arranging new flat and should be gone within the next few weeks.
I know C19 has been so awful for some but for me it has given me the space to see clearly what has been going on. Some fairly serious issues around alcohol, deception and gaslighting - i have repeatedly ignored red flags for what would seem to be many many years. I asked him to leave - I am 100% sure that is the correct thing to do. However, this limbo bit is awful - I feel I am living with a total stranger. He is acting very happy [happier than I have seen him in years].
I am trying so hard to focus on detaching and not engaging in anything other than talks about children/finances. That stuff is hard in itself as he is now someone whom I shared things with to someone who is unpredictable/untrustworthy so I need to focus on working out how I am going to take over mortgage etc and just hope he pays the CM we have agreed along with his half of the mortgage.
But my reason for this post is to ask for help with these fragile days/weeks before he goes. Thankfully he is out at work most days and away most of this weekend - I am doing a fairly decent job of removing myself and retreating to bedroom most evenings. I guess I just need to make sure when I feel a rage coming on I need to stop myself...any words of advice please?
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seperation - alcohol and deceit - need to keep it together till he has left
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Seriouslynotagain · 14/07/2020 11:02
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