Hi everyone
So last year my couison told me that my dad, wasn't in fact my dad and that it had been a family secret for many years (I am now 28) and she gave me the name of the man she believed to be my real dad.
I knew who he was when my she said his name as I knew already my mum had been in a brief relationship with him just a few weeks before she meet my dad and got pregnant with me.
I have always had a feeling that he might not be my real dad, I have no reason for that just something has never sat right with me.
I decided to ignore what she had told me. Fast forward 6 months, a man contacts me on Facebook claiming that he is in my dad and he wants to meet me, and so do my half siblings.
I finally got the courage to ask my mum about this, she told me that she didn't want to talk about it and that she didn't actually know who my real dad is, she just wanted to believe it was the man she wanted it to be. (My parents are still together)
This was last year and I have not acted on anything because my mum really fell out with me when I mentioned it and I am scared I could lose the relationship we have.
Everyday I think about this. I want to know the truth but I don't want to hurt anyone, I also feel extremely betrayed by my family members who knew.
Has anyone else been in this situation? Any help on what you think I should do would be much appreciated, as this is such a private matter I have not told any of my friends so I have nobody to speak to.
Thank you x
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scarlywarlyx · 04/07/2020 00:17
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