I split up with Ex two months ago. The penny dropped when I realised that his some of his words and actions were abusive. I always thought that when we argued, it was just a "bad row". He would escalate an argument by saying "Shut the fuck up" "Fuck off" then if I didn't stop, he'd say "I am begging you to stop, please" then if I continued, I'd get called a "Bitch or cunt" to hurt me and make me stop. This would work because I would go silent and cry. Hours or minutes later he'd apologise, promise to control his words. We'd get along like a house on fire then a following few weeks ahead, it would happen again.
I had to break the cycle and just leave, I felt he was too weak to leave. After most arguments, he'd throw in a threat to break up or he'd walk off. I could see in his eyes that the rows were getting to him, he kept saying he "didn't want to row anymore" As much as we had some amazing times, those names could never be taken back. I hope I don't sound dramatic? I am sensitive, My parents call me "Touchy" and friends say I can get easily upset, however, I feel I was justified in those instances with Ex?
Now it's been two months and I feel I haven't made any progress with myself. In my head, It just hasn't sunk in that we are over. Everything feels surreal, is this normal?
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lemonade525 · 29/06/2020 23:26
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