I've been seeing a man on and off for around a year. He is generally kind, thoughtful etc.
About six months ago he started this behaviour of touching me intimately when I'm asleep. Basically he does it until I wake up and he gives me an orgasm and then has sex with me, then we go to sleep again.
It got to the stage I asked him to stop as I was too tired and I had never asked for it, at the same time he is pretty focussed that he wants me to orgasm (hes the same if we have sex other times) which I feel is weird if he is being abusive?
Then I realised a couple of occasions that he had sex with me lying in bed whilst I was asleep, I was on my side and he would lay behind me to have sex without waking me. I would half wake up towards the end but then fell asleep again. I questioned him in the morning but he denied he had sex with me, said I must have dreamed it. Once he messaged me an apology saying it would never happen again.
Last week I saw him and at 3am he started touching me again. I moved his hand away and then he tried again, so I got up and went to sleep elsewhere, I felt frightened. He seemed distressed, apologised and said he respects if I dont want to have sex with him (he has said this before) I asked him to leave at 4am, he went.
Since then I have met him twice but refuse to spend the night with him. He keeps saying he will never touch me if I dont want him to, he asks if I'm refusing to stay because I'm worried he will try to have sex to me and I dont want to.
I feel like he has done enough to show he doesnt actually respect boundaries, that hes happy to wake me for sex when he knows I'm tired and that he will touch me intimately and even quietly have sex with me when he thinks or knows I'm asleep.
He is nice the rest of the time, but I think he will never change, this is likely only to get worse?
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Should I stop seeing this man?
CupofHorlicks · 27/06/2020 00:41
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