Hi mumsnetters
This is my first post here and am looking for some advice on dealing with my mum.
We've always had a bit of a strained relationship ever since I was a teenager but I feel it's getting worse.
She gets annoyed at the simplest things and constantly feels the need to comment on my life choices. One example of this was her moaning to my sister that my DP and I decided to get a cleaner. Comments were made like "why can't she clean her own house / why is she so lazy" etc etc. This is happening more and more and I feel like I can't be myself or discuss what is going on in my life in case I get comments as I feel if I don't live my life exactly as she does then something has to be said.
I have recently become a mum myself and this has made some things come up to the surface from my childhood that are bothering me. I have always felt like I was in the way and just tolerated as a child and I think this is the cause of me being quite a shy and quiet person and I have struggled to make friends in adult life. One of the things that is really troubling me is a memory I have of me sitting on my mums stairs crying because mum told me I was going to stay with some foster parents as I had been naughty. I remember having a bag packed even down to the toys. I assume it was an empty threat but this has haunted me for years and I am struggling to get past it.
Memories like this and current issues are making it very hard for me to have a relationship with my mum.
I don't know where I am going with this really, just wondering if there is anyone out there who has dealt with something similar.
Xx
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Struggling with my mother
disneymad85 · 24/06/2020 14:05
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