hy am I struggling so much to leave a relationship with a man who calls me names when we argue. He calls me a fat, goofy, ugly, sweaty mess. He will make comments about my skills as a mother, what I feed children isn’t good enough etc. He made a comment on my 4 year old sons teeth to hurt me (they are perfect, he’s got a little overbite from a dummy but he’s growing out of it) He’s told me he hopes I die of cancer when I had cells on my cervix because I deserve it. He’s threatened to call social services on me And Universal Credit to tell them he chips in with some food shopping. He reminds me that I’m a Single Mum on benefits with 2 kids and nobody will want me... (when my children are those of a failed marriage to their father) I just don’t know why he has to use such personal attacks. I’m no angel, I’ve called him a ct or t*t and stuff like that but nothing personal. I never drag his personal problems into anything as they are not ammunition. When we argue he will say vile things to me via text (we don’t live together) then in the next texts it’ll be “get over it, let’s go out for the day”... I am struggling to walk away from this clearly toxic 3 year relationship and I don’t know why. He’s so wonderful when he’s wonderful. Am I alone? What can I do? We have no children together, there is nothing keeping him here apart from us and the bond he has with my very young children. He’s been around 90% of their lives. Thank you in advance for any words of advice.
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I know it's wrong so why can't I leave?
wonderwomanno · 22/06/2020 20:19
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