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Should I just move on?(8 Posts)
I matched with a guy on an online dating app a month ago. We messaged back and forth and then he went quiet. A few days later he responded saying he didn’t get a notification of my message and we message back and forth for a bit and he then goes quiet again. A week later he messaged me to say he hadn’t been on the app and he was going to close the chat. I replied and wished him well to which he responded that he thought he’d missed his opportunity with me. We exchanged numbers and started texting.
I’m always the one to text first and I haven’t had a response to the last message I sent 2 days ago. I don’t want to be over needy and continue to message if he isn't interested. Should I just let it go and move on? Should I send another message? I’ve never done online dating before and the last time I dated was 14 year’s ago. Everything I’ve read online says to meet quickly but with the pandemic I don’t know if that is wise. I would be up for meeting but maybe he’s just not that into me?
At this point I feel I have nothing to loose so maybe I should send one more message that says if he's interested in meeting let me know and to leave it at that?
I will be cynical and say that when he goes quiet hes more than likely pursuing another woman, and if it doesnt work out he will message you again. I've had that done to me many times online dating. I would probably leave this one as he doesnt seem overly keen, when they are keen they will pursue you more than this.
What? No. Block him and move on. He's there for the ego boosts. Timewaster.
It sounds like he's just chancing it, doing the bare minimum to keep you interested. Definitely do not send another message, you've already chased enough. He already knows that if he's interested in meeting you he should say so.
Sorry but you sound like his fall back when he's bored or it doesn't work out with others he's talking to or meeting,l. Or he's simply replying to your messages out of courtesy. You're flogging a dead horse, cut your losses and move on to someone who's interested.
I know you're all right. Thanks for the wake up call!
Eugh, nope just delete him and get rid. I've done more than my fair share of online daters and think I've seen it all by this stage! Sounds like he's just stringing you along as a back up; if he were genuinely keen he'd have replied already.
Sorry OP, I know how tempting that last 'what the hell' message is but take it from one who has sent more than enough of them, and don't bother! x
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