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SardineOil · 18/06/2020 20:04

I've just told my partner of 4 years that I want to separate, we've got 2 children aged 3 and 4 and I've got an older daughter who's 9 who lives with her dad. We've had a lot of problems over the years him cheating, controlling just a toxic relationship overall. I'm not perfect myself so it's wrong on both sides. He can stay in the rented house we live in I will look for somewhere else to live. I need a fresh start, it's not healthy for the children. He keeps badgering me to change my mind, please we'll make it work. I'll change. The thought of me getting my own place and starting a new is so exciting to me! I need some encouragement to keep me focused. I need to save for a deposit on a rented property before I move out so I need to be strong

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jaffa678 · 18/06/2020 20:51

Hi

When my relationship ended to my little girls dad i felt exactly the same as you, i was so excited to start my new life. You will love the freedom! Such an amazing feeling. In the mean time can you not go to stay with family member / friend?

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SardineOil · 18/06/2020 20:53

I've asked if I can stay with my mother in law, strange I know lol! But we really get on and it's not too far from where I work and stuff. I do need to get out I think but I've got my 3 cats here and I don't want to unsettle them until I find a house