Hey all,
Just wanted your opinions on something and how I might approach it. My wife and I are currently going through a DIY home renovation all whilst expecting a kiddo.
As it's DIY I'm doing 90% of the work, which involves all of my free time on evenings and weekends. Throughout the pandemic i've been working my usual 9 - 5, coming home and then working on the house till late whilst my wife has been furloughed / pregnant - she's 15 weeks currently. As you'd expect with a house renovation, the house is in a bit of a state, a lot of boxes and such upstairs in our bedrooms.
The issue I'm having is every time I ask my wife to cook dinner or clean up some mess / do the pots I get shut down every time. She brings up the same argument each time that she's not doing anything whilst the house is in such a mess - so every time the responsibility falls onto me, to cook the dinner and do the cleaning once I've finished breaking my back doing the renovation work. If I'm honest it doesn't feel like we're a team anymore... I want her to share some of the responsibility but just keep getting it thrown back in my face. I'm trying my best to make the house we're in as best as possible for our little one that's due. (it was previously damp, unsafe electrics and poorly laid out).
Some of the other things i get thrown in my face are that we should have got someone in to do the work and it would have been faster - which is true, it would have been faster but I'm saving us thousands of pounds by doing it myself. This post is turning into more of a vent than anything - it just feels as if I'm pulling all the weight for both of us whilst she's furloughed, catching up on tv and playing online games all day. I will totally admit as well and I won't lie - some of the pots are mine, some of the mess is generated by me.
Does anyone have any advise how I can get her more involved / motivated / willing to do a bit of work whilst I'm doing the house? I totally appreciate pregnancy fatigue, but she's literally doing nothing all day and still expects me to do everything :(
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intelmallard · 15/06/2020 12:32
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