I have a 15 year old, a 5 year old and am 4 months pregnant. My 15 year old has always been really boy crazy which I put down to her dad being an absent father.
I had my 15 year old daughter when I was 17 (pregnant at 16) and raised her as a single mum, working full time - which was tough.
I since met a new partner, when my 15 year old was 9, we brought a home together, have a 5 year old and we are now expecting our third.
There have recently (for the past 6 months to a year) been some rather worrying comments from him regarding my 15 year old. I would love your opinion on this example:
My 15 year old has a boyfriend who I allow her to meet up with. During this pandemic either of them have rarely seen each other and today I let her meet with him out the front of our house. He is not allowed in our home as dad is really strict with boys coming in to the house (and apparently outside of the house too!).
Our 5 year old decided to go out the front to show her sister a drawing (and her bf of which 5 year old has met previously and knows from her sister's school). Dad runs out to tell 5 year old to come in. I asked him why she can't show them a picture to which he responded "because I am not letting my 6 year old see that", I replied, what do you mean by 'that' and he said "I don't want her to see her relationship. I said ok but why, I don't understand? When 15 year old turns into an adult in 2 1/2 years she will be allowed a bf here. 5 year old will then be 8. He replied:
You are a bad mother, you are an absolute joke and should see someone, you give bad guidance, the reason your daughter lost her virginity at 13 is because of you, your daughter does not have respect for herself, you will see a difference between your daughter and mine because of how I will raise my children, 6 year old will have better guidance and self respect and won't lose her virginity at 13, 6 year old will be a lot more respectful, you have not brought up your 15 year old well, the reason she is like this is because of you, 15 year old has no respect for adults, herself is rude, selfish, disorganised, leaves plates there. When 15 year old has issues when she is older it is because of you as a parent, she is like this because of you and [your ex] (he said this knowingly that ex has never been around). You need a crash course on parenting because after 13 years you still have no clue.
What is your view on this?
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Barrett1 · 14/06/2020 20:44
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