I had been with my partner for a very long time. Last year he had an affair and it was one of the hardest things i had to deal with. He moved out but not to be with her, but he continued to see her for a few months until it inevitably ended. We have a child together with disabilities, dad was the centre of their life and was distraught he wasn't there any longer. I tried to pick up the pieces even though at first my ex wouldn't see our child then came once a week. After the visits my child would be upset about it because there was no understanding why dad was gone and it was hard for me to see it happen. I tried to be a good mom and not get in the way of the father seeing there child. I tried to move on with my life. I had a brief relationship that was nice but didn't last. I continued my life as difficult as it was. My ex and I started to get along better over time. He came around more often and said how much he missed the family and taking us all for granted. Christmas came and went. It made me miss the wonderful Christmas times we had and it thawed me towards him. He was being nice, supportive and we seemed to be getting on better than ever. When lockdown happened he came home due to tge uncertainty that was around. We didn't share the same bed. It was lovely. Just a family unit again. Everyone was happy. He said he loved me, missed us and deeply regretted making the mistake he did. I love him, I always will. I can't help that as much as I wish I could. I noticed he kept being on his phone. Messaging all the time. Everyone is pretty much always on their phones so I just put it down to paranoia. He admitted he had been talking to an old friend... A female who liked him and he enjoyed the flattery. I felt hurt. He said he wasn't talking to her anymore because it was stupid ans causing hurt. A few weeks later he said he wanted to visit friends and he went but text late saying he wasn't coming home. I said that this was unacceptable to me. He apologised and said he understood how it must make me feel and that was that. A week later he said he wanted to go out but didn't want to cause an issue. My issue was with the staying out all night. So he went. And he didn't come home. I asked him to take his things and leave because i cant deal with that again. He left. He called me and i asked wherw he was staying and he said a friends. I asked if it was male and he said yes but wouldn't say who. I asked if there was another woman involved and he said yes and he has slept with her the night before. I was so upset. During his time away before he said this. I asked him to come see his child because they were missing him. He said he would later as he was a bit busy. He didn't. He said he would be around the next day but then said he was too tired. He hasn't been back. He told me he made up the woman to hurt me for having a relationship when we had broken up. He said i dont let him see his child and would take me to court. My child is upset enough with all this and I don't know what to do. He won't answer calls, he answers mesaages in his own time but if I don't pick up or respond to him he bombards me with calls and texts. I feel like he has cheated again. I feel so unsure of what to do. He is currently ignoring me again even though he said he wanted to come around today to sort out access properly. I just feel so full of anxiety and im so upset. My child is upset again and i dont know what to do fot the best.
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