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joe043 · 06/06/2020 18:43

my girlfriend who ive been with for 11years recently cheated on me were back together and everything is going okish but my reason for posting is since it happend she always wants to go out and see her female friends for hours and leaves me to look after our daughter i am 100percent sure shes not meeting the guy she cheated with but it feels like as soon as im home from work or have the weekend off she cant wait to get away ive tried saying you know we have a family what about us her reason is she has our daughter all week and wants a break but most weekend shes out from 2 in the afternoon till 8 9 at night and even sometimes on the weekdays any advice

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Trevsadick · 06/06/2020 18:49

I suspect she doesn't really want to be back together with you.

She is avoiding being home. You may feel its going well, but its not.

I am sorry she is wasting your time.

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FreddieFlintstone · 06/06/2020 18:53

Tell her what you have just said on here - that you want to spend time together as a family. At the end of the day, that's what having a family is all about. If she doesn't get it, ig might be time to move on.

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jeaux90 · 06/06/2020 19:01

I'm not surprised she want to get out if she's home all week alone with a young child.

Try and find a compromise.

You are both allowed hobbies and friends.

If she isn't working you need to understand that she is probably desperate for social interaction.

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granadagirl · 06/06/2020 19:02

First of all
Did she end it. Or
Did you find out and it stopped?

Big difference
If you found her out and she stopped it,
Is the guy married?
And you said you’d tell his wife?

There not her choice, Hence
the not wanting to stay in with you or do things together
To try and out things right

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