Me and my husband have a 4 month old daughter, our first child. As amazing as she is...a good sleeper she is not!
Despite the craziness of a new baby as well as a global pandemic / no babysitting or time alone we’ve been getting on really well and working together as a team really well. However...all passion and romance has dwindled.
I love him to bits but just don’t see him in a sexual way right now..I see him as a great friend and partner but we spend so much time in pjs / not don’t up at the moment, looking nackered and not getting one on one time to ignite any spark.
We are also both self employed so he’s working full time and I’m doing a few hours for our business a couple days a week. We’re both utterly shattered and sex is the last thing on either of our minds at the end of the day. I honestly don’t know how anyone does it and gets back to normal this quickly but I know people do...
I’m getting about 5 broken hours every night, he’s in the spare room week nights because of work...we’ve tried to have ‘date nights’ in where we get dressed up and make an effort but as we can’t leave the baby alone at 4 months this is sneaking around and whispering while she’s sleeping so not very relaxing!
We’ve had sex once since she was born :( and didn’t have sex the last 2 months of pregnancy so it’s been so so long...Even when we had sex we couldn’t do it for long as it was uncomfortable. It was nice though and felt like we reconnected but just felt too shattered since.
Just a rant really but would love some tips on how you find time / energy with a young baby! ...maybe too much information but another problem is he’s always taken quite a while...so think we’re both thinking do we really have the energy as a quickie isn’t an option...that would make a big difference!
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Tips for restarting sex life after first child
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Crazydiamond106 · 03/06/2020 20:05
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