I’m a bit fragile as I write this, I need gentle approach :/
My husband has form for cheating a few years ago. We did marriage counselling. He did CBT and I had my own therapist too.
At the time we discussed how language and tone used with other female colleagues / friends could be construed. Sometimes I felt he was crossing the line.
Today I looked at his phone. (My fingerprint is registered in agreement but I’ve never felt the need to snoop for a while)
I saw a thread of messages between him and an ex colleague. They both still work in the same industry together but when they worked together he did get a bit of mentionitis, I was torn between wondering if he found her attractive or that he was trying to impress her as she was one of the bosses and he was trying to get a better position.
I’ve seen conversations between them before, all platonic and friendly so I’ve been ok since knowing that.
Messages have been infrequent and there’s nothing going on, but he ended the last text with
“always thinking of you”
Am I going nuts to think that’s a bit much? He even mentioned me a few messages before telling her what he and the family were all up to during lockdown.
I can’t imagine saying those words to my male colleagues?
I’m not afraid to pull him up on it but is it worthwhile?
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DontWantToBe · 02/06/2020 11:45
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