I have been with my husband of 14 years, the past year I feel has been strained. He is always over-reactive to situations, he never admits that he’s wrong and generally lacks empathy. My daughter who is 4 was playing up this evening, she was very tired after a day of fun in the garden and I was tired, my husband tried to say it’s my fault because I let her get away with too much, this simply was not the case and it wasn’t a matter of me letting her get away with anything, she was tired. I said to my husband that I’d appreciate it if he took her to bed now, (we take it in turns to do this) he then said “I might just keep her up an extra 15 minutes, like you did last weekend!” This provoked a reaction from me and I said “That’s a bit mean!” He then said “I don’t care what you think, you know I don’t!” I then said that shows a lack of respect! Followed by, “Why couldn’t you have just said ok, I’ll take her to bed, why did you have to say that, was it to get a reaction from me, that has upset me!” He then proceeded to say “Well you’re not crying, are you?”, I stated that I didn’t have to cry to be upset. I said if you have such a lack of respect for me, you’re capable of doing anything to me, being dishonest, disloyal etc! He said I took things too far and said “Our marriage is over!”. Now, I wouldn’t normally mind but he says certain things to me to get a reaction, I’m normally a placid person and don’t react but the way he completely dismissed me and tried to be mean, upset me. He isn’t a very empathetic person and doesn’t understand why people feel a certain way most of the time.
Am I wrong to be upset by what he said and was I wrong to say that a lack of respect shows he’s capable of doing anything to me.
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IggattyZiggattyZoom · 30/05/2020 20:45
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