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Teens in lockdown

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lockeddownbutnotout · 29/05/2020 14:15

I have a DS14.

As of today, he is allowed to socialise with a friend.

I've let him go out cycling with a friend, but I am so anxious about whether he is sticking to it or meeting up with others. He is generally well behaved, but my instincts are twitching here, not helped by a conversation we just had when I checked to see where he is.

I don't want to keep him cooped up as I know that's bad for him, but I know some of his friends parents have been more relaxed about this, so how do I stop him meeting with those friends? Do I just have to trust him?

I don't know how to manage this one. I really want us to do the right things COVID wise, but keep him from being isolated too.

How are others managing this?

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losingmymindiam · 29/05/2020 14:26

We have discussed it and the importance of keeping distance etc. I have let mine go out and I have to just trust they will do the right thing. Same as during non Covid times. I make them wash hands as soon as they get home. Not sure what else can be done!

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namechangenumber2 · 29/05/2020 15:01

I've been trusting DS for the last couple of weeks ( We're in England), he's the sensible type and thankfully his friends are all similar. I just remind him as he leaves to stick to the 2M rule and be careful if he goes into a shop or anything. I've seen a big improvement in his cheerfulness since he's been able to meet a friend which is great!

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Rollergirl11 · 29/05/2020 15:09

DD (14) has been meeting up with one friend at a time since last week. I have dropped her to a park. There were lots of teens in big groups definitely not social distancing. I could see DD and her friend when I picked her up and they were keeping apart.

Today her and 4 friends have gone to the local river (I know it’s a few days early). I did say to her I was a bit worried about them being able to social distance if it’s busy. But ultimately I didn’t want to say no and her miss out. I’m just going to trust her to do the right thing. I know that she thinks it’s important to social distance so I’m hoping she will!

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lockeddownbutnotout · 29/05/2020 17:45

Thanks for the replies.

I will need to just trust him and see how it goes, I guess.

I've reiterated the rules numerous times leading up to today and he knows how strongly I feel, so hopefully that's enough.

It's hard for them, I do get that.